(#2) how to navigate life after a breakup

 Hello beautiful people! Welcome back to WELLNESS BABE podcast, available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify & Amazon Music. 

I hope everyone has been enjoying their week. Last week Wednesday was my birthday, and I felt really loved, appreciated and super grateful for life. On this week's episode, I wanted to discuss relationships, ways to boost your mood after a breakup and also how to let go of past relationships. So I am currently recording this episode on Valentines Day, so how fitting right...haha

Firstly let's discuss my opinion on Valentine's Day. I don't really support the idea of Valentine's day because love is an action and we should show our partner's or loved ones, how much we appreciate them every day. I also think that it is a lot of pressure added onto the man, whereas why can't a woman also spoil her partner on this day? Why is it up to the man every year. I feel as if there is so much added pressure on this specific day, whether it is buying a gift, or feeling left out because perhaps you are single and have no one to share this day with, and it can be a lot of pressure which doesn't need to be there, because it is just another beautiful day. Therefore if you are someone who perhaps is not in a relationship or you just got out of a relationship, or even if you are currently in a loving relationship, don't forget to also focus on developing a healthy, loving relationship with yourself first. 

Today I am going to spill all my best secrets on how to let go of a past relationship and how to boost your mood after a breakup. Don't spend another moment being consumed by negative emotions. Let's talk about how to come out on the other side so much stronger. 

So let's be realistic. Everyone deals with a breakup differently. Certain people may have certain coping mechanisms, for example - staying in bed for the next month eating ice cream, or it could be going out every night with your friends. No matter what your specific vibe is, it can be a very difficult time for you, however distracting yourself from the heartache, doesn't work, however, I do want to share with you, the best mood boosters to help you get through the heartbreak. Firstly, embrace your independence. At first, it can be difficult to navigate life and your new normal. However if you look on the bright side, you no longer need to depend on someone else's schedule or lifestyle Therefore go and visit your friends or family that you miss, go and travel the world, watch your favorite movies and the best way to really feel like yourself again is to take back the power in your life and enjoy your personal freedom. Sometimes taking the time to sit in being uncomfortable and being okay with it, allowing your feelings to come to the surface, feeling them, understanding them and then consciously releasing them, so that they don't hold you back, is such a powerful way of starting the healing process. 

Surround yourself with your loved ones and the people that want you to be happy in life. An excellent way to remind yourself that you are still loved, even though you may not be in a relationship, you are still worthy of love. By surrounding yourself with your close friends or family is so beneficial, because they are there to love and uplift you. When experiencing a breakup, it can be an isolating feeling and it can feel like you will never be able to move forward, however when you are surrounded by people who want the best for you, you are able to look around, pick yourself back up again and realize that the world has not diminished and this is the beginning of a new chapter.  

Express yourself and music is such a powerful outlet to be expressive, whether you choose to cry, there is nothing better than enjoying your favorite music and allowing yourself to feel what you want without any judgement. So let it out. It is so counter productive to keep emotions inside. Release it, so that you can make room for more positive emotions. When you are trying to create a new routine for yourself, or be more balanced in your life or even start creating a new lifestyle, by spending some time outside, will give you more clarity on the way forward. Fresh air is also so good for the soul. Therefore go for a walk outside or sit under a tree and journal. Treat yourself and enjoy your favourite snacks, and even though it won't cure the heartbreak, it does feel good in the moment and food has also been proven to increase serotonin levels which helps to shift your mood. Therefore go to your favourite restaurant and live a little. 

The only way to move on, is by not looking ahead and not remaining in the past. Therefore mute your ex. Keeping tabs on your ex partner and what they are doing is super unhealthy and not the way to live life, especially if you are wanting to move on. These habits would only hold you back from healing, so if you can limit those types of distractions, then do it, and keep the focus on yourself. If you are enjoying the tips I am providing on how to boost your mood after a break up, then feel free to leave a comment down below. I am going to cover - how to let go of a past relationship in 2022. How many times have you heard the saying - Time heals everything?

Even though the saying is totally correct, it does not always help someone who is perhaps hurting and going through the breakup and experiencing the heartache. We basically date someone to see if they are someone we would want to be with for the rest of our lives, someone we can share our highs and lows with in life. It can be difficult to let go of a past relationship, which might have felt comfortable to us. However when we take some time to really reflect on that past relationship, we realise that deep down, the relationship was not healthy. It takes a lot of courage to really step away from that and it is not an easy decision. When to begin to take the steps to move on from a past relationship, it can be a really exciting time in your life. Why? because you get another chance at love. The only difference is that you are now so much wiser, you also have the opportunity to work on yourself, and you are aware of what you want out of a relationship and it is so important to remember that even though you are heartbroken and devasted, there is hope and you need to continue moving forward with love and not allow the experience to change your perspective on love, because every experience is meant to make us stronger. Your past relationships, are meant to help guide you to a beautiful, new chapter. Therefore every moment you choose to spend focusing your energy on a past relationship, is one more day, you are unavailable to working on yourself, focusing on your own happiness and opening yourself up to new love and new possibilities. So my advice, is thank each of your previous relationships (in silence of course) for making you the strong person you are today and move forward towards a beautiful future. I want to discuss 3 ways to move past a breakup. 

1. Cut off all communication - in order to move forward, especially in the beginning, having no communication with your ex is going to benefit your mental health and healing process. Therefore this is the first step you need to do and you need to also be mentally prepared to do it. 

2. Forgive the past, which basically means that you need to really forgive the person who hurt you or didn't value you or appreciate you and release those negative emotions, so that you can move forward. So forgive your ex, be grateful for the lesson and wish them well. Life is too short for bad vibes. 

3. Don't forget to invest your time into yourself and loving yourself, because when you love yourself, you won't settle for negative treatment from anyone, and your happiness now comes first. You will survive this. 

Be the love of your life. 

Thank you so much for listening, I love you!

Ciao :)